Articles 

Sex, porn, marriage & divorce

I was trying to think of a snappy title and I couldn’t so I just put all the key words in the headline. But it also captures a simple fact that all four are a feature of modern life whether we like it or not and they are all increasingly tangled up. Let’s start with pornography which is freely available in vast quantities to anyone who wants to look at it. Here are a few reasons why (without referring to the Bible) that we should be wary of porn. The…

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Articles 

The Curiosity Index (15.11.2018)

In North Korea, Missile Bases Suggest a Great Deception This news should surprise precisely no one. North Korea is moving ahead with its ballistic missile program at 16 hidden bases that have been identified in new commercial satellite images, a network long known to American intelligence agencies but left undiscussed as President Trump claims to have neutralized the North’s nuclear threat. Your Mother’s Romantic Past Affects Your Own Dating Adventures This is not determinative, it’s not fate but it should give us concern for the generations growing up now and what…

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Gender 

Sexuality 3.0 – more freedom, less licence

As a child of the 1980s & 90s I grew up in a culture that saw Christian values and morals as hopelessly out of touch and old-fashioned. The issue of my day was the ridiculous notion of no-sex-before-marriage. Then came the increasingly affirming attitudes towards same-sex relationships and now we have gender-fluidity. Activists for all of the above would argue that whatever legal gains have been made it has not been made equal, nor global nor arguably cultural. From their point of view, the battle is still on. At the same time…

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Christian Living 

Living in a XXX culture

Growing up and living in the evangelical sub-culture, pornography has always been presented as one of the great evils. Yet pornography and its current mass availability worries far more than just those from a conservative religious viewpoint. It’s mass availability it proving a problem for lots of people, not least pornographers. Hilton Hotels is phasing out on-demand porn in its hotels not because it’s the right thing to do but because guests who want to watch porn will use their laptop instead. This mass availability has slashed profits and driven many pornographers out…

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Links 

The Curiosity Index (05.05.2015)

Evangelicalism sometimes gets a bad rap for being a shallow tradition, yet Matthew Milliner has found it surprisingly deep: All I really need to know I learned from evangelicalism Derek Rishmawy asks: what does it mean to be inclusive like Jesus? Well worth reading. This piece says all you need to know about modern conceptions of marriage, it’s quite sad: I’m a child of divorce but it hasn’t put me off marriage. “It is, I think, a sign of social progress that people are building their own modern families – whether single…

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Christian Living 

Porn: How to talk about it & what to do about it

Pornography is a pretty ubiquitous subject on blogs these days and sadly a common one on Christian blogs like this one. It’s a significant problem and the use of pornography by Christian men (still mostly men) and women is growing not diminishing. Pornography is a big issue and a big problem. Google tried to ban it from its blog platform and then swiftly backtracked on the decision because well, lots of people like and use and look at porn a lot. This culture is a challenge to Christians on a whole number of levels and…

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Tools to protect your time & your integrity

There are a few more tools that I need when I consider my use of computers and especially when I go online. Integrity tools I’d love to be able to confidently write that I can be trusted to surf the world-wide web without ever looking at pornography. I can’t so I use some tools that block it out and have helped me create healthy habits. OpenDNS is my first line of defence. This changes the settings at the router so every device that uses our family Wi-fi gets this line of…

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Gender 

The gender conversation 2: Lad culture, porn & modest women

There’s no doubting that gender continues to occupy a lot of time, space & energy in the church. It regularly raises the emotions and generates a lot of heat and little light. It can also put Christians into camps where the ‘the other side’ can be seen, talked about & treated as a problem or worse ‘the enemy’. In the church this is nothing short of disastrous. So I’ve invited Hannah Mudge to a blog conversation with me about faith and gender. Follow the links for previous posts: part 1:…

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